|added Thu October 25 2007 at 8:11 PM
|I'm not even talking about my infrequent posts here. I just got off the phone with a friend of mine. It's been a while since I talked with her.
You would think that if you go for a long time without talking with a good friend, you would have more to say to them. When she first moved away, we could talk for hours. It's been a couple months since we've talked and we barely talked for 30 minutes before we suddenly ran out of things to say. Part of it may be that we've grown apart a little bit, but I think there's more to it than that. I think that it's easier to talk a lot with someone that you already talk a lot with.
You see, if I haven't talked with you in a long time, then about the only thing that we're going to talk about is the generic smalltalk. How's life? How's Seattle? How's your ward? How's work? Those are all superficial conversation starters, and it's hard to spend much time talking about that. If, on the other hand, I talked with you yesterday, then the conversation becomes "How did that meeting go today?" or "Did you see her again? How'd that go?" which involve answers that you can spend time analyzing.
I still miss her. I've been thinking about calling her the last few days, actually. I guess part of me was afraid that we hadn't talked because she didn't want to. Maybe that will teach me that I should call friends whenever I think about them.