|added Sat July 24 2004 at 3:04 PM
|To start things off properly, essential definitions to clarify the disticntion between intimate or intimacy and sex or sexuality:
- Marked by close acquaintance, association, or familiarity.
- Relating to or indicative of one's deepest nature: intimate prayers.
- Essential; innermost: the intimate structure of matter.
- Marked by informality and privacy: an intimate nightclub.
- Very personal; private: an intimate letter.
- Of or involved in a sexual relationship.
- The condition of being intimate.
- An instance of being intimate.
I include the sixth definition of intimate for completion and to show that there is some foundation for the mistaken sense that intimacy is equated with sexuality. The pertinent definitions for sex include The sexual urge or instinct as it manifests itself in behavior; Sexual intercourse..
Note that except for the sexual reference, none of the definitions for intimate include anything relating to a physical state. In our society, however, the word intimate is used almost exclusively in a sense of sexuality. If this were not the case, I would not have to begin by clarifying the distinction I wish to make between intimacy and sexuality. Sex is a purely physical drive and response. Intimacy, however, is an emotional response that can easily be found with no physical attachment whatsoever.
In my uneducated opinion, the reason why sex and intimacy are confused is because sex is such a physical closeness that parties involved often require there to be a certain intimacy before engaging in physical activity. Also, high levels of intimacy are often associated with regular close physical proximity which could be demonstrated to lead toward sex. Intimacy and sexuality are close cousins, but they are not two sides of the same coin as our society tends to assume.
There's more to read. Read the extended entry.
|added Sat July 24 2004 at 8:41 PM
|Along with installing my search feature, I set up a way for me to track what was being searched for. This includes searches coming in from Yahoo, MSN, and Google. I didn't specifically incorporate any other search engines, but if they follow similar patterns than they, too, will be picked up. Anyway, that wasn't the point of this entry.
The point is that today I checked my searches (curiousity killed the cat, but for a while I was suspect, and that's why I incorporated this feature) and saw a search for "Josh Campos." Does that mean that he's back? He didn't leave a comment or anything, so maybe it was one of his friends in anticipation of his arrival. Unfortunately, I don't know if I would spell "Dallan Christensen" correctly to be able to attract hits from him, too. At any rate, I know that I'll be seeing a lot of people from my Freshman year pretty soon.
It's kinda like seeing ghosts, when these people from one of my past lives show up. But if anybody else finds my site, please leave me a message.