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Writing about dating
added Mon December 08 2008 at 12:54 AM

Is it still okay to write about dating and opinions on girls? When I first started writing online almost 6 years ago, there wasn't really much chance that any of the girls I talked about would ever read my site. Or, if they did, it was because I was already friends with them. But now that blogging is more commonplace, I think that it's more plausible that the cute girl might find my words if she's trying to figure out more about me. What if she finds my post about how much of a crush I have on her?

One solution to the problem that I plan on implementing is to have some content only be visible to users who are logged in. That way I can still vent my girl frustrations or excitements to my friends without worrying about saying more than what the girl should hear. How does that work with RSS feeds, though? Do I put an entry in the RSS feed that says "log in to read more"?

For now, though, I'm just going to throw caution to the wind and give the story in a nutshell on a couple girls. Why? Because people ask me what I've got going on, so apparently some of my friends still want to know. Plus I find it interesting to look back at my past entries and see who I remember and how things have (not) changed over the years. Names shortened to reduce the possibility of google hits.

I was dating a girl back in... September? She wasn't looking for any kind of committed relationship, so she wasn't actually a girlfriend. We had some fun together eating out, watching movies at my place, watching TV at her place, hanging out around town, but things fell apart. She has a lot of growing up to do, and she thought I was condescending or something like that (can't remember the exact words she used, but Stephen and Will probably know what she's talking about). She seemed to appreciate my tech background, but she spent too much time telling me that my jokes were too dorky, my clothes weren't stylish enough, etc. That's fine and I know that I'm a dork, but by the end it felt like she thought she could do better than me, so whatever. I'll admit that I said something kind of rude at the end (basically amounting to telling her to stop whining), but she wasn't interested in an apology. She wasn't talking to me for a while, but we're at least back on somewhat friendly terms again (well, at least until she finds and reads this, I guess). I don't regret dating her, and I still enjoy talking with her as long as she's not trying to blame all her problems on someone else, but I have no plans of doing it again.

For T's birthday (and Christmas for the next 2 years), I flew her and N up to Seattle for a few days. That was fun, but I'm so far in the friend zone that it's not even funny. It was fun to see them, but it was kind of a bad time at work so I couldn't take any more time off to spend with them. I did see them earlier when I was in Utah for a work trip, and I seem to be averaging a couple Utah trips per year, so it's nice to still have a friend down there that I can go on casual dates with.

I went to the Seattle Art Museum with C a few weeks ago. She moved into the ward over summer. She's a civil engineer (doing traffic analysis) with a Master's degree from BYU, so it was fun to go on a date with a cute nerdy girl. I felt like I could connect with her on a lot of things, and we could disagree on other things without hurting each others' feelings. I'm definitely interested in seeing her again, but I don't think that I stand much of a chance for anything more than a couple dates. She's very active in church (to the point of volunteering at the temple every Saturday morning at 5 am) and I have a pretty big strike against me when it comes to that.

I met S through an online dating site. We exchanged several emails through that site and then met at the Pacific Science Center over Thanksgiving weekend. We've continued exchanging emails since then and there's a second date lined up for Thursday. She's really busy with finishing up the semester (she's taking classes towards her Master's degree at night while working full time), so I haven't been able to see her at all this past week. I had a great time with her on the first date and it felt like we connected pretty well. She still writes back to me, so I haven't managed to scare her away yet at any rate. That's actually the one relationship that I currently have the most hope for (with a healthy dose of realism). She seems smart and she's pretty easy to talk with. I was also pleasantly surprised that she's even cuter in person than her picture from the online profile.

Well, there's the nutshell for the lovelife of this nut. Hopefully I make the user accounts sooner rather than later so that we can have these chats more often without needing to worry about who's going to read them. And now it's off to bed for me.


Merry says:
JP, please include me in your user accounts. It would be cruel for you to send me the link to your feed and then not let me have full access to your site!

And thanks for being one of those guys that aren't intimidated by smart girls. I was recently informed that girls can never become too cute to be asked out, but they can become too smart! Sad.
posted Tue December 09 2008 at 12:28 AM

mom says:
If nothing else, your mother appreciates the lovelife in a nutshell. Your dad figures go for it and do not give up on anyone along the never know what it will turn into. ;^D
posted Tue December 09 2008 at 12:28 AM

stephen says:
hmm. yeah, we talked about this one. i'm not sure what you'd put in your rss feed. probably a link to the site that would forward to an authentication page if not yet authenticated.

as far as the dating goes: good luck. thus far i'm a fan of S. but i've been fans of a few of the girls in your recent past, so what do i know.
posted Wed December 10 2008 at 3:41 PM

Jo-Pete says:
I guess we'd better not tell V.

Date with S tonight!!

/me crosses fingers
posted Thu December 11 2008 at 12:46 AM


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